Empathy

“Do unto others as you’d have them do unto you”

How many times did you hear that growing up? It’s also in the bible (Matt 7:12) and I’ve done my level best to action it in life….

But….

In the last few years I’ve realised it doesn’t actually work! (at least on face value)

I’ve been treating people as I’ve wanted to be treated and it’s really upset a good number of them! Some have hated being treated the way i treat myself…

It’s been really puzzling…

Until i’ve thought about it in a bit more of a high level way:

i actually I want to be treated in a way I want to be treated.

This means other people want to be treated in the way they want to be treated.

So to truly act this out one must further develop ones own empathy, insight, understanding and compassion for others so that it’s possible to treat them in a way they want to be treated. This means embracing their value set, vocabulary and world-view…. While somehow still being true to your own!

It’s gonna be hard as so very very few people have this understanding. So it can’t matter what you get in return. It’s got to be pure grace.

This is truly doing unto others as you’d have them do unto you.

I’ve only ever heard about vigorous, sacrificial, empathy development from the most celebrated authors and psychologists….and, according to the scripture I mentioned before…

…Jesus  (Interesting how often he’s said something it’s taken hundreds of years for mankind to rediscover and write books about it!)

…So just maybe he’s the one who can show us how to live it 🙂

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About finchleymusic

Businessman, Singer/songwriter, traveller, worship leader & mentor
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